Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Deep Thoughts Hate Laundry Lists

Hi Nadine. I think you did post this article before, but I'm reading it again. Oh, and these "Big Questions" as well...hmmm...

Background: I hate "self-help" writings. I find that it is mostly generalized garbage, touted by someone who thinks they have learned all "the answers" and wants the rest of the world to know how clever he/she is. Gee...thanks for that. The lady who has been married eight times, and wants to give me advice on a healthy marriage!? Um, no thanks!

I also can't stand the "laundry lists" of things you should do or shouldn't do with your life. Like I need someone else giving me the "shoulds". I get enough of that from my stupid, gorgeous brain.

#1. You should stop listening to haters and believe in yourself and follow your heart.
#2. You should follow your dreams, and forgive, and be the best that you can be.
#3. You should tell me to shut the fuck up, cause what do I know about your life, your dreams, your situation, your reality.

Despite all of this cynicism that pervades my entire existence and threatens to overwhelm me and wash me out to sea, I love this article. Well, it's kind of a love-hate relationship I'm fostering here. I don't know why I love it. I cannot explain this strange phenomenon.

I am - however - trying really hard to listen to the inner Lisa. The Lisa that is stage-whispering her every wish and desire and wondering why I haven't followed through. The Lisa that I cannot hear, that I cannot understand, that I cannot figure out. This Lisa is lost. I would love to find her, assuming she even exists in there any more.

Sometimes I think you need an outside opinion, a fresh look for this kind of deep thought moment. I know that there are people in my life that could help me, that would help me. And who wouldn't judge me. And who would give me good advice, great advice.

Or who would smack me upside the head and shake me cause I'm being an idiot. Whichever was required.

I hate when these lists come out and make things look so easy. Make all your dreams come true! You too can "live up to your potential" by using this handy Point Form Guide to Life! Geez Louise.

But I will take what I can of this, as a reminder that all the things that I think I want (and need) for my life and my well-being are perhaps not as out of reach as I previously imagined.

Now if only I could figure out what those things are...where is the helpful list for that?

And so after all of those "deep thoughts" I will leave you with this quote, that I so helpfully found on A Dreamer's Daze "the other day" (which in my blog language means when I was writing this post on the 7th...and finishing it on the 28th)

"Some people bring out the worst in you, others bring out the best, and then there are those remarkably rare, addictive ones who just bring out the most. Of everything. They make you feel so alive that you’d follow them straight into hell, just to keep getting your fix." -Karen Marie Moning

Ain't that just the truth. Cheers to those people in my life who bring out the most in me, because even though I have no idea what I want out of life, I know I couldn't do any of it without you...thank you!

later loves

p.s. I am in what I like to call an "I love you I love you I love you I LOVE YOU" mood today. So.....yep......not sure if any of this made sense to anyone (or even to me), but it seemed necessary at the time. Thanks for listening.


  1. Stop focusing on what you don't want to happen. Yup. That's the one I REALLY need to work on. Like for realz. Ian gets so annoyed with all of my worst case scenario BS. I'm especially bad when it comes to what I don't want to happen at work. I dwell and dwell and dwell until I make myself ill.

    Not good. Time to kick that habit, I think.

    1. I used to be like that, especially when it came to job interviews and stuff. And then I heard something somewhere about how there's no point in stressing about things we can't control, or things that haven't happened yet. And as long as I focused on that fact, I did okay!

  2. I think it's all part of life and learning life lessons. It's okay to make mistakes, if we never made decisions how would we know if they were right? My biggest thing was I use to worry what others thought, now it just doesn't fall into the equation. I do what is right for me and have stopped doing what I think pleases others. :)

    Interesting post Lisa :)


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