Friday, September 15, 2017

10 x 10 Challenge - Last Half

And we're done!

This project was really exciting! For such a little thing, I was so pumped everyday to get dressed and try something new with some of my most-loved and most-worn items in my closet.

Enjoy Outfits Six through Ten!

I am posting this about 5 days after I finished, and I still find myself reaching for these 10 items over and over again. I mean, after I washed them! HA!

I have SO MANY THOUGHTS about this project and I want to do up a proper post in the next couple of days sharing what I learned, and my future in the Capsule Wardrobe business. I can already see so many positives coming from this Challenge, and I don't want to lose that momentum.

Until then...
To see Outfits one through five, click here.
For a complete list - with pictures! - of all of the pieces, check out this post.


Friday, September 08, 2017

10 x 10 Challenge - Halfway Point

It seems silly to do a "Halfway Point" post for a fashion challenge that only lasts 10 days, but most of the fashion bloggers who take on this challenge do a post a day with their outfits. I take ONE PHOTO per outfit (maybe two if the first one was a dud), because my "Instagram Husband" is myself plus some household item to prop up my phone on a flat surface. I don't have enough pics - nor do I want to - to fill a blog post each day of this challenge. That is a whole separate challenge that I did not sign up for.

Anyhoo, I've got Outfits one through five posted below, with notes about which pieces I am wearing in each. "Six-Nine-Ten" for example. For a complete list - with pictures! - of all of the pieces, check out this post.

I'm learning...
- That I really love [most of] the clothes in my closet
- It is tough to pick 10 items of clothing that you can wear to work and to play
- There is only one item that I chose that I would swap out for something else (not that I know what the replacement item would have been...)
- I am so OVER the trend to have new clothes all the damn time
- I still struggle with buying higher quality (more expensive) pieces that will last longer, especially when I have some fast fashion pieces that have lasted for years

As I post this, I am currently on Day Eight of the Challenge, and I am not running out of steam. In fact, I think I might go a couple of days over because I haven't exhausted all of the outfit options in my 10 pieces!

This is a very exciting challenge, and I can't wait to write my official wrap-up post!


Thursday, September 07, 2017

Action 2017 - Journaling Habits

I made a commitment to myself at the beginning of the year that journaling would be an important daily Action. And I made it to June! That's better than I have ever done! And then summer hit, and we all know how I feel about how this summer went for me. ICYMI, it was a bummer.

Life felt too full of nothing, and I didn't keep up my "journal every day" action item. Was I too busy? HA! No. It just fell aside, and I maybe reached for it once a week, if that.

But, I am better at being good to myself, forgiving myself, and letting shit go this year.

So I am just getting back on it, without judgement.

And I am re-realizing that this is an important part of my mental health, my daily rituals, and cultivating my good habits.

So the moral of the story is...
- Don't feel bad if your habit isn't trucking along like you expected
- Let go of your expectations of perfection
- Just start, just start again

Do you have a daily habit that has taken a back seat over the summer? Did you have great success with your daily rituals over the summer? Do you want to get on a daily ritual, but have no idea how to get started?


Wednesday, September 06, 2017

From The Vault: Just Don't

I found this post in my Drafts folder, and I thought I would just share it for Pete's sake. I really enjoy writing different pieces like this, but they take a lot of emotional energy. And I continue to struggle between writing from my heart, and writing with purpose and eloquence. It's a work in progress and I love it.


This blog post is inspired by Miss Marley Dias. This eleven year old black girl from New Jersey launched a book drive because she was "sick of reading about white boys and dogs".

Her goal is to collect 1000 books with black girls as the protagonists, the main characters.

And gosh if that isn't one of the more awesome things to hit the internet over the past week.

Marley and I don't really have much in common, but I'm also sick of reading about white boys and dogs. And I'm also sick about people not understanding why....or rather, not caring to understand why and not thinking it's such a big deal to read about white boys all the time.

aka Stop complaining! It's not a big deal! It's just a movie! Politically Correctness is Ruining Hollywood/Comics/TV/Politics/Schools/Life! Feminazi!

Just don't.

I'm not excited about yet another white guy superhero movie. There, I said it. I'm talking to you Marvel & DC! You wanna know why? Sounds like Thor 3 is coming out soon, and it features a bunch of the same white guys as were in Iron Mans 1-18 and Avengers 1 through Eleventy Billion, telling the same white guy stories. And don't forget Batman and Superman! They get to add to their lengthy list of prequels and sequels before Wonder Woman even got to be a fricken extra.

I am sick and tired of being expected to be excited about another movie (book, TV show, etc.) with literally the same white guy as the lead.

And don't give me none such bullshit as the tired line that movies with female-leads, or strong female casts don't bring in the big bucks. Ahem, Star Wars? Ahem, Mad Max Fury Road?

I can't even begin to imagine what it feels like being a POC, or LGBTQA+ navigating this same old shit. I am so excited to see POC making so many successful pushes into mainstream media lately (Viola Davis, anything Shonda Rimes & Ava DuVernay touch, Hamilton, Scandal, etc.), especially given the setbacks they continue to face (#OscarsSoWhite).

Diversity and representation matter, especially to the people who don't have ample chances to see themselves reflected in the media that they consume. It's also important for the people who do get to see themselves in the media all the time.

But also, it's kind of getting boring. People are bored with the same old story-lines and re-hashing of the same characters.

A month or so after Star Wars came out, I was talking to my (white cis man) boss, and he was fan-boying over some theory he had heard from a friend. That Han didn't actually die, and managed to escape the destruction of the Starkiller Base (thanks to Captain Phasma no less), just so he can have his reunited-and-it-feels-so-good moment with Luke. Really guys? We can't just pass the torch, we need to have another bro moment?

After he gave me the low down on that, I told him that I really hope they develop the relationship between Poe and Finn into something more romantic. Yes, the two dudes. They already have the perfect "meet cute", and some serious flirting going on. Why couldn't we see a gay relationship portrayed on Star Wars? That's a rhetorical question because I already know the answer....

I love Star Wars, and Star Trek, and I love Batman, and I even love Superman. But we've seen it. I've seen it. I'm done. Show me something new. Some me some ladies! Show me some lady friendships, and queer relationships! Show me some colour! Show me some fat people! Because that's what the world looks like, and we want to see ourselves up on the big screen.

And to all those fan boys out there who think having more female leads, or female super heroes will ruin the franchise, or that nobody wants to see that, or whatever lame ass excuse you've got for me this time, shuttup. Just shuttup.

As a woman, I am fully expected to treat all cis white male protagonists as representative of the human race. I am supposed to be able to put myself in their shoes, and really connect with their story because they are considered the default. Well, that's bullshit if you ask me. And if it goes one way, why not the other? Why don't we expect cis white men to be able to do the same with female characters, or minority characters?

Another rhetorical question friends. Stay with me here.

I got "tone policed" by a close relative when I was talking about my experience with all the "boys toys" out there because he didn't like how I said what I said. This is the same guy who tells me not to get "so excited" when I get excited. Gee, thanks for telling me that my personality trait is grating, thanks for telling me to be "less". Thanks for telling me to "whoa calm down" because you don't think I am responding in an "appropriate" way.

Just don't.

I'm excited about this, I'm just not excited about another cis white guy movie, written by a bunch of dudes, directed by a dude, starring a bunch of the same dudes.

Speaking of Star Wars, I found some posts on Tumblr today that illustrate my point quite well I think.

It's been almost 17 years and I still don't know why Padme Amidala develops a crush on 11 year old Anakin Skywalker when she's been travelling with a young and hot Ewan McGregor.

Response: Dudes wrote it.


Friendly reminder that Leia has just lost her adoptive parents, entire planet, father, husband, son and been abandoned by her brother and yet has never been tempted by the dark side even once. take notes skywalker boys ya'll weak as shit.


Friday, September 01, 2017

Fashion - 10x10 Challenge

I have finally decided to dip my toe into the world of Capsule Wardrobes. I will be starting a 10x10 Challenge today! September came just too darn fast, and I need a fun project to lose myself in for a little bit.

What is a 10x10 Challenge?
The gal behind Style Bee created the 10x10 Challenge in 2015 while she was doing a "shopping fast". No shopping means you have to get creative with what you already have, and this challenge is just the tool to help you do that.

The basic guidelines are as follows:
1. Choose 10 items from your current closet
2. Wear only these items for 10 days
3. Create 10 unique outfits from these 10 pieces!

My Challenge
I am going to pick 10 pieces that (I hope) will work for both work and weekends. I hope we don't have a heat wave, because I didn't include any shorts!

I am not including my exercise gear, pajamas (or "lounge wear" as they call it these days!), jewelry, shoes, or other accessories in my 10 items.

The Pieces
Here are the items from my closet I have selected for my first 10x10 challenge!
Top Left: Reversible Shawl/Vest - secondhand
Top Right: Pineapple tank - Joe Fresh
Bottom Left: Vera Vera dress (on sale now!)
Bottom Right: Midi length, sleeveless dress - Joe Fresh

Top Left: Star Wars sweatshirt - secondhand
Top Right: Jessica Simpson black denim - Value Village
Bottom Left: Beep Boop tee - Threadless
Bottom Right: Reversible Black/Print skirt - Joe Fresh
Top Left: Reversible Black/Print skirt - Joe Fresh
Top Right: Grey blazer with pleather details - H&M
Bottom Left: White blousy tank - RW & Co.

I am already excited about this project! I naturally find myself sticking to only a few items in my closet, so I am hoping it won't be too hard to purposefully limit myself to "just" 10 items. The above items are some of my go-to favourites, that I wear all the damn time anyway!

If you want to play along, HOORAY! I will be posting on Instagram using the hashtag #sonotladylike10x10. I would love to see your pieces and outfits. We can help keep each other on track!


Further Reading:
Style Bee 10 x 10 Challenge
The Purpose of a Capsule Wardrobe by Brass Clothing
Build a Capsule with Cladwell & Un-fancy
Unfancy Summer Capsule Wrapup