I read an interesting article (or Tumblr post I can't remember) the other day about how clothes or fashion that are labelled "gender neutral" are usually still traditionally masculine in tone. And clothes that are traditionally associated with women and female traits are not considered gender neutral when worn by a man (or agender person).
It was an interesting article, to say the least.
Anyhoo, here are some photos of me wearing one of BFF's bow ties! I love bow ties.
And look! They can be Black Tie Formal, or Canadian Tuxedo Casual.
I started this "project" last year. The first notes I wrote to myself were in November, and it kind of just took off from there. I didn't really have a purpose, process, or end goal in mind. I just wanted a place to write myself notes. Pep talks, or words of wisdom, lessons learned, that sort of thing.
There is no pressure in this book, no judgement. They are just notes to me, from me. Reminders of patterns, and observations.
They are personal, they are private, and they are important to me. And maybe they will be important to someone else. They represent the dark times and the light, and how sometimes in the middle of the dark, you can forget that the light will ever come again.
They show that it is important to have your own back, to be your biggest fan, and to always listen to your own voice and trust it.
I played along with Ali Edward's A Day In The Life on March 29. And overall, it was a raging success! I was wondering what it would be like to do it on a work day. In fact, I was worried I wouldn't have anything to take photos of, and that it would be boring. Ali's big scheme with this project is that you capture your real everyday life. And that includes all the boring work moments too.
6:25 am wake up time. I am NOT a morning person. I have to be out of the house by 7:00 am and the typical morning involves me dragging my sorry ass out of bed between the minutes of 6:30 and 6:38. I have perfected the art of getting ready in 12 minutes.
6:55 am and we're out the door! Lucas has been talking about Pokemon since the second he rocketed out of bed. Even while he was in the bathroom and I wasn't close by at all. On the drive to Grandma's house I miss my turn and have to wait at that pesky light on 76 avenue & 83 street. Lucas is still talking about Pokemon. He moves on to Skylanders before we reach 75 street.
"I leveled him up pretty brand spanking fast!"
He is happy to be at Grandma's. He says hello to the kitties, before I get my hug and kiss goodbye.
8:36am time for my second coffee. [This photo got missed in the blog upload...hmmm...] The clock on Blair's coffee maker is wrong. And the coffee isn't great, but it gets the job done. Today on my to-do list is get some photos on Houzz, update some Pinterest boards.
9:36 am and my giant white board. Still uploading photos to Houzz. Don't You Forget About Me playing on the radio.
10:30 am, time for a mid-morning snack of celery and PB. Messy desk. Message light flashing on my phone. Typical.
12:16 pm heading out for my lunch walk. Blue skies overhead, but it's damn windy! I have Dude everyday for the next 2.5 weeks, so I won't be heading to the gym in the evenings. These lunch walks are a sweaty necessity. Today I did a 3.62km circuit around Summerside, and it took me about 39 minutes.
1:06 pm lunch at my desk as per usual. Some sort of mixture of leftovers. Lunch time walk means a working lunch.
3:31 pm. Missed my 2 o'clock photo because nothing eventful has happened. Nothing photo worthy, nothing of note. That's cool. Actually, still nothing has happened, but here is a picture of my favourite part of my "office" (aka hallway corner lined with filing cabinets)
3:41 pm finds me trying my hardest not to fall asleep at my desk. My wake-up-walk downstairs discovers that someone brought in donuts! Thanks Someone!
5:20pm picking up Lucas from Grandma's house. It's been a long day for everyone.
5:40ish pm making a stop at the library. No books on hold for me = sad face.
6:08pm Dear Yesterday Lisa. Thank you ever so much for cutting up all those vegetables so I could just dump them in the pan and heat them up for dinner tonight. You are a goddess and I sincerely appreciate you. Love, Today Lisa.
Obligatory Dinner Shot, Time Unknown. Watching shows on the iPad.
7:30pm and we are done our chores, so it's time to relax. Lucas is playing Pokemon online, and I'm re-reading a Jasper Fforde book. Cookies and whisky for after dinner snacks.
9:12pm and I'm moving from squats to my second workout for the night. He's almost as tall as me, so this is as difficult as it looks.
10ish pm and my curlers are in and I get some more reading in before my head hits the pillow.
8:54pm, bedtime #1. No book, no chit chat, and he was down for the count in 30 seconds. Spring break is hard work!
And that's my Day In The Life, March 29, 2016. I think I will probably put together some sort of mini album for this, because it's fun and quick and that last picture of my dude is THE MOST to say the least.
March was the month for non-fiction apparently! I finished two, returned one to the library unfinished (ran out of time), and I've got another sitting on my nightstand floor waiting to go.
Here's a quick re-cap/review.
Fire Season by Phillip Connor. This book is the musings and observations from a man who works in a fire lookout tower in the SW United States over the summer. It is filled with interesting facts and history about the US Forest Service, and how their attitude towards fighting fire has changed over the decades. But mostly, it is a story about a man who lives half his year away from people, watching for fire. There are so many amazing reflections on time, and solitude, and nature in here. A real treat for someone who enjoys being alone out in the wilderness, even just for a moment. I think anyone who has ever sat in a park, or on a mountain can find connection with this book. Plus, this is one of BFF's dream jobs, so I really felt even more connected to him as I read it.
How To Win Friends And Influence Peopleby Dale Carnegie was recommended on some book site or forum for people on the autism spectrum, for assistance or insight into interacting with neurotypicals. While I don't consider myself to fall on the Autism
spectrum, I have similar difficulties that this poster referenced, and
definitely don't consider myself neurotypical! It's strange that a "self-help" book that was written 70+ years ago can still find relevance today. Most of the references are out of date - sending letters and telegrams for example - but the advice was spot on. Lots of "real life" examples from his seminars, and plain speak. Easy to follow and understand, and he summarized his main points after each section with a handy list!
I did have some issues with how he actually wrote about neurodivergent folks and this whole page on "insanity" that I was not cool with, but overall I was impressed. Definitely changed my whole attitude, and I have seen major improvements in my work and my interactions with coworkers and friends lately. Did NOT expect that at all.
Next In The Queue...
I have been reading some heavy books lately. Not in weight, but in content. So I needed a palate cleanser, and I like to turn to books I know and love when that happens. So I have been re-reading Jasper Fforde's Thursday Next Series. These never fail to disappoint, and I can breeze through them in a couple of evenings.
I just started reading the memoir that was sitting on my floor. It was due back at the library yesterday...so..... It's titled Iceberg and in it Marion Coutts is recounting the moments in her family's life after her husband got a major health diagnosis (and then passed away, if I remember correctly). I am only a few pages in, but already it is reading like no other memoir I have ever seen before, and I am sufficiently hooked. I only hope that no one else has put a hold on it, so I can renew this bad boy!
Also, my buddy loaned me some of her faves. I can't remember the titles off hand, but I believe one had the word "bitch" in it, so I am already a fan.
I've got two books "in transit" for me at my local library. Good old Idylwylde. Yes, there are a lot of Ys. Both were featured on a recent (or not so recent) episode of "All the Books".
1. Alibis: Essays on Elsewhere by Andre Aciman. Another non-fiction, and my first dip into the latest "trend" of essay collections.
2. Lizard Radio by Pat Schmatz (a rhyming name!). This one sounds absolutely bonkers, so what better way to lighten the mood!
UPDATED: Just checked epl.ca and I have FIVE books in transit for me right now. Fuck-balls. It looks like there are a couple of YA in there though, so that's my saving grace for keeping my head above the water this month. If March was all heavy, let's make April as light as coloured marshmallows. Or something. Metaphor!
I have an essay writing, MLS-related query. How do I properly document the name of a podcast in my writing? Italics? Underlined? Quotation marks? The last time I wrote an essay, there was no such thing as podcasts. Hmm.
I feel weird writing about my scrapbooking layouts. So I won't.
Photos from our trip to Vancouver in January, at Macleods Bookstore. Gotta love a good independent bookstore...
Products Used: The main meat is Kaiser Craft. Although, if we're using a proper food-to-plate ratio I guess it would be the vegetables. Wooden word is Heidi Swapp. Gold bowtie is I have no idea. Black letters are really old, possibly also Heidi Swapp. Leaves are hand cut. Envelope is a found item.